A fascinating story about the complex relationships between Black Men and Black Women. The film follows the love life of a successful man as he attempts to examine the relentless debate over the battle-of-the-sexes.
Do Not expect this to be a flip version of Tyler Perry's "A Diary Of A Mad Black Woman" with full acting and dialog throughout.
It's broken down in segments, each segment does have actors and a script but after each segment it goes into an actual documentary with real people that have dealt with those situations but it's a definitely must-see film for ALL African-American Women to finally go into the understanding world of the African-American Male.
Finally a movie that represents the African-American Male version of Waiting to exhale.
After watching this film/documentary, I was calling all my Male friends telling them about this movie and how they should watch this movie with their wife or girlfriend.
"All Men...especially Black Men Are Dogs and No Good" is the typical stereotypes that some African-American Women say about the African-American Male but this film takes you on a inside journey with real African-American men who are NOT like that but it's the Angry & Bitter Black woman who have been scorned in previous relationships because of the bad choices she made fail to look at her own responsibilities and chooses to take it out and assume all Black Men are useless.
I enjoy this movie cause it's a focus on the conscious but on the other hand, the negative I have to say about this movie I feel the documentary part could've been a bit shortened in between segments.
This movie also will admit that there are some African-American Men who are indeed no good but on the same token there's just as many Good African-American Men as well.
This film will explain itself in full detail once you began to watch it.
Go cop It!!!
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Highly Recommended
SBLove99 | New Orleans, La. | 02/13/2009
(5 out of 5 stars)
"To all brothers & sisters who want a in-depth knowledge of the problems facing us in our relationships from the horses' mouth. The film is a drama interspersed with commentary from brothers & sisters across the country taking about the issues we have with each other.
It is funny without being silly; it is REAL talk between us with all different levels of opinion, so no one should be offended by the comments, but to listen to all and understand the common goal for us to develop and maintain healthy relationships for our children & future generations.
The film was an official selection in 3 black film festivals in 2007; I'm just wondering why I'm just finding out about it now. It should have played in theaters across america. Buy a copy and invite some friends over to watch & discuss."
DEEP!!!
J. Henderson | muddy waters, NJ U.S.A> | 04/12/2009
(5 out of 5 stars)
"This should be required viewing for every black couple, period(esp. if you have children!!!) It's not all on black woman, because as a black man, we have our s**t with us too. That being said, you can not put us all in the same bag. SOME of us have witnessed our fathers abuse our mothers, and are doing everything not repeat that vicious cycle with the women and children that we love. At the same time , black women who are in potentially good relationships really need to realize what they have and not let the transgressions of previous relationships (be it an ex- or even their fathers) f**k up the root of what could possibly save us as a people. Meaning: how do we expect to unify our race, when we can't unify the nuclear family : man, woman, child(ren)?!?! And speaking from personal experience, I can relate to James. I work hard everyday, and when I get home in the evening, I have no idea of the person that I'm gonna come home to. It's as if I have to constantly prove myself to my woman, who, even though everything I do is indictive of a man who is wholeheartedly commited to family, just seems not to "get it". And that is indeed tiring. Something's gotta give, black people. Although this is a problem that's not exclusive to our race, it seems to effect us the most. We need resolution. This film is definitely a step in that direction. Peace!"
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Akhenatonio | Poughkeepsie, NY United States | 06/11/2009
(4 out of 5 stars)
"First of all, this is not a woman bashing movie. This movie seeks to highlight certain aspects of the Black Male / Black Female relationship dynamic that may be broken and offers constructive ways of fixing it; constructive criticism, meant to strengthen relationships, and help both men and women make better decisions toward their futures together (or apart).
Men, watch it with your woman if you find that she is:
1. Arguing with you constantly.
2. Listening or talking to her friends about what you do or don't do.
3. Tearing you down in front of your children.
4. Taking for granted the kind of man you are (that being a good man).
5. Angry at you for no fault of your own.
6. Crazy.
Women, watch it with your man if you find that he:
1. Leaves the room when you have something to say.
2. Leaves for work early.
3. Comes home late.
4. Crazy.
Hopefully you don't have all of the above problems, and maybe you don't have any, but this docu-drama is a tool to help, not hinder your relationship. If you don't have the problems portrayed here, then great. If you do have some of these problems, here's a way to put them on the table and do something about them before your relationship becomes caustic.
This movie does have some downfalls however, which is why it loses a few points (3.5 out of 5 stars). Many of the commentaries are rather lewd and unnecessary. The film could be shortened, by taking out a lot of the material that doesn't need to be there. Some of the outlandish comments cause the movie to have less of an impact on some of it's audience than it would have. The sporadic sequences of drama are also very short, and spaced too far apart. I would love to see many of the sequences combined, and expanded, and limit the comments to only a few minutes. In all, it still seeks to provide information to strengthen the bonds of the African-American couple community, and succeeds in doing so in spite of it's unyielding use of opinions.
In conclusion, don't just watch the film because you have the aforementioned issues, watch the film because you are proactive, and don't want them.
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Excellent documentary for anyone to view!
Ervin Griffin | Bluefield, WV | 05/27/2010
(4 out of 5 stars)
"I don't own this product but I did see it on Showtime in its unedited form. This DVD comes with both the unedited and a "clean" version of this film.
I've read some reviews on this board where some felt it was stereotyping or that it was being unfair to women. Well, how many films have already been done that does it from the women's point of view? I am not a male chauvenist but I am glad one has been done that tells it from the man's point of view for a change.
For the record, it DOES discuss "no good men" as well but I feel the point of the film was to show that a lot of men go through crap just like women do. I think any reasonable person would agree that women and men are flawed on some level.
And though it is aimed at a black audience, I think anyone of any race could learn from this film. I would give it a good recommendation BUT its definitely for adults!"